Who are your friends? Who do you hang out with? Who do you go to for advice?
We need other people, but not just anyone will do. When our son was in elementary school we talked to him about friendships. We encouraged him to be kind, caring, and cordial to everyone. He could play with anyone. However, we counseled him to be very careful about whom he chose as his best friends, his closest friends. We suggested that he choose close friends who shared his basic values, who could help him to be the person he wanted to become.
If you spend most of your time with negative people, it will be difficult to maintain a positive outlook. If you accept financial advice from someone who is barely keeping their head above water, you’re not likely to build solid financial security.
I’m not suggesting that you go out and dump friends, eliminating people from your life who don’t measure up. What I’m suggesting is that you take a look at the people in your life. Choose to spend more time with those who are closer to your goals than you currently are. I’m also suggesting that you be careful who you turn to for advice.
By the way if you, like several women I’ve talked to lately, have no close friends, I suggest that you reach out. Invite someone to lunch. Choose someone you admire or would like to get to know better. Don’t wait for someone else to reach out to you. I know it can be scary, but it’s so very worth it. We need other people to share our lives.