R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Our current culture doesn’t offer men much respect. Take a look at the vast majority of television shows, movies, and talk shows. Men are almost always the big, dumb, clueless jerks. It’s a shame, because it really makes it hard for anyone trying to raise a boy to be a man or a girl to be a woman who treats men with respect.

Men and women are different. The Bible tells men to love their wives as Christ loves the church—willing to lay down his life for her. Women, on the other hand, are told to respect their husbands. You see, if a man doesn’t feel respected he will never feel loved.

Men can be buffoons. They can do incredibly stupid things. They can act like overgrown children. That’s part of their makeup. I wonder, though, how much of that sophomoric behavior is a cover, a way to act like they don’t care. After all, they’re told just about everywhere they turn that their way of doing things is wrong.

I’m blessed to be involved in a couple of arenas where men are afforded proper respect. You know what I’ve observed? Men in those arenas act much differently than in a lot of other places. They take on huge responsibilities and treat the women around them with loving respect. That’s right. Men who are treated with respect are much more likely to treat women with respect.

I’m not talking about going back to a time when men ruled the roost and women took second place. I’m also not talking about letting men win every argument. I’m talking about allowing men to be men. I’m talking about truly listening to a man’s ideas. I’m talking about not nagging or using a condescending tone when talking with them. I’m talking about not burying him in emotional language or, heaven forbid, tears.

If you’ll treat the men in your life with true respect, you’ll be surprised at how well they’ll rise to the occasion. Try it. You might be pleasantly surprised.

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7 Responses to R-E-S-P-E-C-T

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  4. Yvette says:

    Congratulations, you just got flattered by spambots.

    Our current culture doesn’t offer men much respect. Take a look at the vast majority of television shows, movies, and talk shows. Men are almost always the big, dumb, clueless jerks. It’s a shame, because it really makes it hard for anyone trying to raise a boy to be a man or a girl to be a woman who treats men with respect.

    While the dumb male is a common stereotype, it doesn’t make up the vast majority of portrayals of men. Men are the protagonists, they are quite often intelligent and capable. Far more common are stereotypical portrayals of non-white men. I’m sorry, but even white women–let alone non-white women–have it far worse as far as media portrayals go. Women are often portrayed as either sex objects or devalued because they are no longer “worth anything” sexually. They are most often presented as clueless, airy, sexual, and either delicate or femme fatales. Who do you think gets more respect in the media?

    Men and women are different. The Bible tells men to love their wives as Christ loves the church—willing to lay down his life for her. Women, on the other hand, are told to respect their husbands. You see, if a man doesn’t feel respected he will never feel loved.

    Men and women are different in biological ways that have little to do with our society’s gender roles. Your Biblical gender roles, in fact, do more to put men in a box and restrict how they feel they can act than the media does. How can you complain about men being expected to act one way then be perfectly fine with women being expected to be subservient?

    • mommabates says:

      That particular blog posting was about treating the men in our lives with respect. Frankly, I don’t think anyone is portrayed well in most popular media today.

      As for Biblical gender roles, while many churches have placed women in subservient roles, the Bible does not. If my husband loves me and serves me as instructed by the Bible, it’s natural for me to respect and love him as instructed.

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