Our current culture doesn’t offer men much respect. Take a look at the vast majority of television shows, movies, and talk shows. Men are almost always the big, dumb, clueless jerks. It’s a shame, because it really makes it hard for anyone trying to raise a boy to be a man or a girl to be a woman who treats men with respect.
Men and women are different. The Bible tells men to love their wives as Christ loves the church—willing to lay down his life for her. Women, on the other hand, are told to respect their husbands. You see, if a man doesn’t feel respected he will never feel loved.
Men can be buffoons. They can do incredibly stupid things. They can act like overgrown children. That’s part of their makeup. I wonder, though, how much of that sophomoric behavior is a cover, a way to act like they don’t care. After all, they’re told just about everywhere they turn that their way of doing things is wrong.
I’m blessed to be involved in a couple of arenas where men are afforded proper respect. You know what I’ve observed? Men in those arenas act much differently than in a lot of other places. They take on huge responsibilities and treat the women around them with loving respect. That’s right. Men who are treated with respect are much more likely to treat women with respect.
I’m not talking about going back to a time when men ruled the roost and women took second place. I’m also not talking about letting men win every argument. I’m talking about allowing men to be men. I’m talking about truly listening to a man’s ideas. I’m talking about not nagging or using a condescending tone when talking with them. I’m talking about not burying him in emotional language or, heaven forbid, tears.
If you’ll treat the men in your life with true respect, you’ll be surprised at how well they’ll rise to the occasion. Try it. You might be pleasantly surprised.