Many women expect their husbands to know what they’re thinking. Many of those same women believe they know what their husbands are thinking. My guess is that 9 times out of 10 they’re wrong. Men and women think differently. They have different priorities and different ways of expressing themselves.
My birthday is coming up in just a few weeks. I just reminded my husband of that. He’ll get several more reminders from me leading up to that date, along with some gift suggestions. If you ask him, he knows when my birthday is. What he doesn’t necessarily know is what today’s date is. So, chances are good that without reminders, he’d miss my birthday. Without gift suggestions, well, he’d ask. Then again, that’s The Furry Guy.
Birthdays aren’t all that important to The Furry Guy. They are to me. This is fairly typical. What usually happens when a man misses his wife’s birthday is that a woman will get really upset and view that as a sign that he doesn’t care about her. Not true. He just doesn’t necessarily care about her birthday. Big difference to him—not so much to her.
Women, your husband can love you with all his heart and still care nothing at all about your birthday. Please remember this. Men, your wife may consider a lack of concern for her birthday to be an indicator that you no longer care deeply for her. Please take this into consideration.
The key is communication. Women, don’t drop broad hints. Be direct and specific. Yes, if he were a woman he’d be more likely to know just what would make your eyes shine without a single reminder. But, he’s not a woman. If a nice dinner out without the kids would be your preference, let him know. If what you’d really like is a particular book, let him know. Men, mark your calendar and don’t be afraid to ask her what she’d really like this year.
He can’t read your mind, and doesn’t really know what’s going on in his head. Your life will hold so much less drama if you’ll keep that in mind. Telling your husband how to make you happy in clear, easy-to-understand language is actually a sign that you respect him and his way of thinking. And, men, remembering her birthday with a thoughtful gift is a sign that you love her.