As we begin the new year, we’re hearing a lot about achieving balance in our lives. This is something many of us struggle with. I think we may be reaching for the wrong goal.
Balance is a static condition, and it’s almost impossible to achieve. Think of yourself standing in the middle of a teeter-totter. Personal responsibilities are piled on one side. Business responsibilities are piled on the other. After a bit of wobbling, you manage to get it perfectly balanced. Now you can’t move.
I think harmony is a much better model. When a group harmonizes there is ebb and flow. Sometimes the soprano has the spotlight. Sometimes it’s the bass. Harmony also allows for different things to enter or leave your life without completely upsetting everything.
How do you achieve harmony? Decide what you want to be your melody. That’s what comes through the strongest. If you have small children, family will probably be that melody line. Everything else will support and complement family. For me that melody line is God. But, my life has tight harmony, and my marriage and my business are clearly heard.
One of the great things about achieving harmony is that it can change to accommodate a temporary issue in some area of your life—a sick child, a looming work deadline, a friend’s crisis. It can be adjusted on a monthly, weekly, or even hourly basis.
Consider making harmony your goal. You just might find that it’s easier to achieve than you think.