What are your expectations? Of your spouse? Of your family? Of your friends? Of your customers? Unmet expectations are the cause of a lot of anger and depression.
If I expect my husband to remember our anniversary, realize that it’s next Tuesday, and plan a romantic date, complete with just the right gift, I’m in big trouble. That’s especially true if I have not let him know what I expect. (For the record, my husband knows our anniversary, he’s just not always good at knowing today’s date. That means he may not realize that our anniversary is next ______.)
If I expect my friends to remember my birthday and send a thoughtful or funny card, I’m going to be disappointed. Oh, some will, but most won’t. They have their own things to worry about.
As my month is filling up (yeah!) with parties, I’m doing my host coaching. I’ve been thinking about what I expect from my hosts. I expect them to invite lots of people. I expect them to collect orders. I expect them to encourage people to order and schedule their own parties. Do they know that? Am I making it clear what I expect and, more importantly, how they can do those things?
If I don’t make my expectations clear, I can’t really be upset if others don’t meet those expectations.